One of my favorite verses of scripture is 2 Nephi 2:26. This verse talks about the Savior’s gift to us and that, because of his actions, we are “free forever” and can choose between good and evil, “to act for themselves and not to be acted upon.”
I think a lot of times we forget (or maybe even don’t know) this vital truth about life. We are not rocks! We are not trees! We are not here to be acted upon. But what else would you say about someone who eats whatever is put in front of them (as I sit here eating a raspberry treat when I don’t even like raspberry, but I am eating it because it is here, within reach)? What would you say about the person who sits and watches hours of TV a night? Or the guy who gives into his base needs/desires/instincts and doesn’t attempt to control his appetites? I would say that they are being acted upon.
Note: I am writing this for myself, but I believe this applies to a lot of people.
Maggie thinks I am going through a mid-life crisis. However, I say that I am only now discovering that I need to act, I need to work towards being greater and better every day, week, month, and year.
Tangent: New Year’s resolutions are a joke. Why would you base your whole year’s success (or, more likely, failure) on some decisions you made at the beginning of the year? I mean, goals are great and all, but why not make them every month? Or better yet, once a month for big things, and then re-evaluate every week.
I recently read a very interesting and helpful article from what is rapidly becoming one of my most favorite web sites (artofmanliness.com), about what it means to grow up and be a man. I highly recommend everyone (not just men) read the article. I also highly recommend everyone (mostly men) visit frequently The Art of Manliness site to learn the lost art of becoming (and what it means to become) a man.
From the article there are two concepts addressed: freedom from and freedom to. Freedom from (aka negative freedom) can be summed up as “I am a slave to no man.” This is the ability that everyone has (as an adult) to choose between options. As an adult we are free to choose to do things that are not prohibited by law. We are free to go to parties, sleep in late, use drugs, and sleep around. As the image below illustrates, we are free to choose between options.

Freedom to (aka positive freedom) can be summed up as “I am my own master.” This is the ability that every adult has to master his appetites and to put up his own constraints and limits. A boy that wants to become a man places his own restrictions on his actions. The man sees things like the use of drugs and promiscuous sex as not uplifting or wholesome activities. The man puts up his own restrictions, knowing that he is improving his life and happiness, not by doing whatever he wishes, but by limiting himself and his appetites to improve the many aspects of his life.

Too often we think that being happy is the ability to choose between options. We experience the freedom to do what we wish after being restricted during childhood. We can stay up late, eat what we want when we want, and spend our time doing what we wish. However, growing up and becoming a real man/woman is realizing that being able to do those things doesn’t mean that we should. Growing up means choosing what is wise and right. I choose to put restrictions on myself and my actions because I know that doing those things is stupid, useless, or even damaging. I am not perfect and I do things all the time that are stupid, useless, and damaging. But I am trying to recognize those things each day, week, month, and year and I’m trying to be a better man as I grow.
In short, be a man, use your brain.